40 Thoughts From Turning 40


My delicious birthday cake was created by Sugar Coated.

This weekend, I said goodbye to my 30′s.  SO…  is 40 really fabulous?  Here’s 40 thoughts from the 40 seat:

1.  One year, not wanting to break my healthy eating streak, I made myself a ricotta cake…. it was disgusting.  At 40, knowing much better, I thoroughly enjoyed every single bite of my decadent chocolate cake covered in buttercream.

2.  I know now that ever attempting to STOP drinking coffee is in fact STUPID.  I proudly admit to being a coffee addict.

3.  At 40, I know that if something is lacking or “off” in your life, it’s up to YOU to GO AFTER IT.

4.  If given the opportunity to magically jump back into any age, I wouldn’t take it.

5.   I recently received a compliment about my friends: no drama, no gossip.  That feels good.

6.  Speaking of friends, at 40 I’m blessed to have women in my life who accept me as I am, love me deeply, challenge me when needed but never cross the line.

7.  At 40, I LOVE the security we as women have.  No longer is there a feeling of competition or trying to outdo.  In our circle, we all have strengths and weaknesses that melt together into a beautiful mosaic of womanhood.

8.  My clothing size no longer matters.  I will strive to be as healthy as I can.  But, at 40,  I no longer seek a size on a tag to get my worth.

9.  Perspective.  It’s all about perspective.  If I could go back in time, with the vision I have today, my teens and twenties would’ve been a whole different story.  I wish there was a way to gift that to our children.  Instead, I’ve found my prayers focusing on them knowing who they are in Christ.  There are so many temptations to be someone else for acceptance…  only when we find our worth in the One who created us can we be totally complete.

10.  When I married my high school sweetheart, I was 21.  Over the last nearly 20 years, we’ve each grown so much…. loving each other every step of the way.  At 40, I can honestly say I’ve never loved my man more or felt loved by him more.


11.  I was 26 when I welcomed our first baby into the world.  I was a wee bit uptight as a young mom.  At 40, if I could go back and talk to that old me, I would plead with her to embrace that season of life.  Not to rush and wish for the next stage.  ”That older lady who stopped you in the doctor’s parking lot after the ultrasound…  the one who looked you in the eye and with desperation in her voice begged you to always remember how fast time goes and how quickly babies grow up….  SHE WAS SO RIGHT!”

12.  At 40, I wish I hadn’t dabbled in my faith for so long…  keeping one hand clinging onto the world and one onto my bible.

13.  At 40, stuff that used to seem SO important really is of no importance….  and stuff that used to seem so unimportant, I now see as SO important.

14.  At 40, gravity does in fact seem to be taking it’s toll.

15.  Even though it may be sagging, at 40 I’m more comfortable in my skin than ever before.

16.  I’ve learned that I am always glad when I choose to zip my lips and let my temper cool instead of harshly lashing out with my words.

17.  Never ever will I regret rising early for Quiet Time….  just me, my coffee and bible, and God.

18.  I will always regret staying up late…. especially when it’s to watch trashy tv.

19.  EVERYONE is busy.  It’s the world in which we live.  Use the calendar to create moments with friends and family or else they will be missed.  This isn’t a time to hope it will happen on it’s own.

20.  As a mom, there is always going to be an inherent desire (while your kids are growing up) to have “your thing”.  Most recently mine was running.  Don’t give “your thing” too much weight in your life.  When/if you have to give it up, it will crush you.  Hobbies are great…. as long as they don’t become your worth or your savior.


21.  Books are good.  We live in an age where screens lure us and leave us little time to get into paper pages.  If like me, you have lacked in reading…  grab some friends and start a book club.  One of the best things I’ve ever done with friends!

22.  At 40, I’m more aware than ever in my life that our time on earth is short.  Even if we live a long full life, it’s still a short time.  {Psalm 39:4-5}  It is wise to remember to live each day to it’s fullest.

23.  Sometimes daily life can bog us down.  It’s in those moments when we need to live with the end in mind.

24.  Failing to plan is indeed planning to fail.

25.  Balance is a blessing… just ask my kids how happy a box of Fruit Loops can make them when Mom’s in a season of strict healthy eating.

26.  There is a difference between Quiet Time and Bible Study.  Both are needed.

27.  You can never take enough pictures or videos.  You will not remember how things were years ago.  Capture the everyday.

28.  At 40, I deeply appreciate the people God has placed in my life.  I know that some are brought into our lives for only a season…  some for a lifetime…  each and everyone for a reason.

29.  After nearly 20 years of marriage, I do not take one single day with my man for granted.  I could not have possibly imagined how wonderful my life would be as his wife when I said “I do” all those years ago.  My husband makes me feel so loved, safe, beautiful, sexy and cherished.  At 40, our marriage is stronger and better than ever before.

30.  Change can feel scary.  But when you’ve prayerfully made the right choice, it’s always better to make the leap than stay safe.  When you look back, you’re grateful for all those leaps have given you.


31.  Wishing and whining will get you no where.

32.  At 40 I’ve come to appreciate my weaknesses as much as my strengths.

33.  ”But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind {not losing all memory of sinful past, but leaving it behind as done with and settled} and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.”  Philippians 3:13-14

34.  At 40 I wear bifocals progressive lenses because things seem to be so much smaller… and ask those around me to repeat themselves because they all seem to be talking much quieter these days.

35.  I am so grateful for my husband who shows our son how to one day treat his wife and our daughter what to one day seek in a husband.

36.  Distraction and discouragement are two of the most powerful tools the enemy uses to try and create a sense of defeat…  Ephesians 6:10-18 is a reminder of how to protect against these schemes.

37.  I am not someone who has a great memory.  It seems to keep getting worse.  However, The Joker by The Steve Miller Band immediately transports me back to 1992 into my Geo Prizm.

38.  God calls each of us to be the individuals He created us to be….  and that looks differently for everyone.  You get very off course when you look to others for what you should be doing.  Seeking God and serving Him is what ultimately allows us to fulfill our purpose.  This has caused me to miss many opportunities over the years.  I won’t repeat this mistake anymore.

39.  If you are living in the past, you are filled with regret.  If you are living in the future, you are filled with anxiety.  If you are living in the present, you are filled with peace.

40.  And finally… BLOOM where you are planted!





  1. Debbie says

    I loved this Kim! You look fabulous and not a day over 30. I especially loved #22 as I feel the same way. I guess the older we get the more we realize this. I love your attitude about your husband and marriage. And I have to say that the pink cake is making me hungry right now and it’s still early in the morning in Phoenix. You are such a blessing!

    Love you,

  2. SmellingCoffee says

    What wisdom! God has amazing things planed for the next years ahead – and imagine what wisdom we will gain as we continue to embrace getting older and wiser! Love you~

  3. Aggie says

    Oh how I love this list Kim! It’s awesome! I have learned so much from you, I’m so lucky to call you a friend…I wish I was at your luncheon to celebrate you in real life!

  4. nadeen says

    This is Wonderful!! Welcome! I am in my early 40′s and I agree with so much of what you said!! Embrace, Enjoy, Live with lessons learned and no regrets!

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